On the way to work today, again, a bicyclist was impeding in 'my' lane (as if i own the roadway); being in auto-ego mode first thing in the morning, i quickly dumped all my hate onto the bicyclist..but there is a miracle here..'wait for it'..
but instead of being overwhelmed over the 'guilt' for once again spewing my self-hate onto someone else (so that I can feel guiltless (at least for a couple seconds)),
[Now, here is the lesson:]
i quickly asked for different way to look at it (because i really do know inside that the bicyclist was not the cause of my guilt).
the lesson is that I did not let the guilt of my first attack prevent me from asking for help, so I was able to receive the correction (the miracle).
Parting thought: today, as I begin to feel guilty for anything that arises in my mind, instead of feeling like a bad student, my right mind can remind my decision maker that this is just another opportunity to ask for help if I so choose...that's all..just another opportunity for correction, nothing else, nothing more...freedom from pangs of guilt at last...
Yup, it's almost reached a point for me that when I get "triggered" by someone, I just think, "Well, there's my teacher for this moment." Sometimes said with peace...and other times with some resentment. What's really weird is when I remember that it's me in another form, showing up to teach myself, and then am able to forgive myself for doing it. And forgive the "other" person for not having done it...for not having made me the victim. Hmmm. That might be too esoteric for this early in the discussion! Yah think??
ReplyDeleteyes, the thought of seeing myself in the other person so I'm really teaching myself that there is no 'other' self, but only the one 'Self' does offer me peace in that moment, if I am thoughtful enough to get off the 'specialness train' long enough to recognize it, and if I choose to accept it -- so many opportunities to see that -- everywhere i look; wherever my mind wanders -- which brings me back to one of my favorite lines, "all things are lessons god would have me learn"; thanks for the reminder as I acknowledge that fact as I am able today...(can u tell that run-on sentences are also one of my favorite things?) :-D
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