Forgiveness can only be achieved in the mind -- not between people as all relationships are in the mind, not between bodies; and I learn to FORGIVE -- to see the innocence in you -- by withdrawing the guilt I projected on you -- I withdraw the guilt from myself
So then, practicing forgiveness becomes a gentle melting away of guilt from the mind, a journey leading you to a point where you see EVERYTHING as either a call for love or as an extension of love (no matter what the other person has done in terms of behavior) -- so, over time, my only response becomes extending love to all, where no one is excluded from that love that radiates from my mind
Thursday, October 28, 2010
Saturday, October 9, 2010
To Forgive But Not Forget Is Not Forgiveness
How many times in my day do I forgive someone else or myself, but I do not forget?
It is that NOT FORGETTING that makes forgiveness an exercise in futility.
Forgiveness is a relinquishment of any perceived attack to myself or others. Forgiveness and not forgetting are mutually exclusive, so I cannot forgive until I see that it is my unwillingness to forget that keeps me in the illusion of attack revenge cycle -- i perceive attack from you or against someone I love or hold dear and I then I get my true 'revenge' from your attack by not forgetting. In my wrong mind, I get the best of both worlds -- i get to 'forgive' but I get to hold onto the attack as well...ah, self-righteousness -- it is the goal of perceived separation.
Happily, this internal bargaining I make is all an illusion -- attack is only a wrong minded idea.
It is only when I can begin to see your 'attack' as your fear and nothing else (and fear is not real) then true forgiveness is possible -- I realize I am outside the illusion looking in and I gently smile -- I know I have forgiven myself; for I am the only one I can forgive -- and in that moment, I am awake.
It is that NOT FORGETTING that makes forgiveness an exercise in futility.
Forgiveness is a relinquishment of any perceived attack to myself or others. Forgiveness and not forgetting are mutually exclusive, so I cannot forgive until I see that it is my unwillingness to forget that keeps me in the illusion of attack revenge cycle -- i perceive attack from you or against someone I love or hold dear and I then I get my true 'revenge' from your attack by not forgetting. In my wrong mind, I get the best of both worlds -- i get to 'forgive' but I get to hold onto the attack as well...ah, self-righteousness -- it is the goal of perceived separation.
Happily, this internal bargaining I make is all an illusion -- attack is only a wrong minded idea.
It is only when I can begin to see your 'attack' as your fear and nothing else (and fear is not real) then true forgiveness is possible -- I realize I am outside the illusion looking in and I gently smile -- I know I have forgiven myself; for I am the only one I can forgive -- and in that moment, I am awake.
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