by constantly looking at all the things i put before the love and peace of god, i.e., recognizing the purpose of what I am doing.. not to judge my choices, but to realize that these are choices I am making.. so as my fear gently subsides, i am able to gently take the hand of the new teacher and accept that love that really "IS" the only alternative (i.e., there really is no choice, only the belief that there is a choice)...
and also remember the even the slightest inkling/twinge of fear/annoyance/discontentness is just another opportunity 'to look without judgment' at what my mind is choosing (ever be it so "minor") it either serves my choice either for: love or separateness...
